Tonight I'm going to discuss with you. Stop watering dead plants. I am one of three Trinity coaches and Trinity coaches are three coaches, with three perspectives, and one solution. That solution is that we go live every first and third, Thursday. And have a conversation about your problems and everyday women's issues.
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We had a discussion about friendships on our last live show. If you're anything like me, when it comes to true friendship, I can be pretty nurturing. My friends become more like family to me. I treat you no different than I would assist her or cousin. I involve you in my plans, ideas and help you with anything you may need along the way. The only thing is that I need reciprocation. I need the same energy and return the moment I feel uncomfortable in any friendship, I tend to press the pause button.
I don't get mad. I just dismiss myself. I can recall having a conversation with myself about a couple of situations in my past. One of those situations was that I continued to call people to check on them, to see how their day was just to make sure they were doing well. If they were having. Time, then I tend to pick up the phone just to let them know that I care, but I found myself doing this and my phone calls were being ignored or I wasn't receiving any callbacks.
You know, when I left a message or if I was going through something, I wasn't receiving the same type of. Care, you know, the fame nurturing. And I wasn't receiving that from my friends. So I had to step back. And then there was a situation where I had to talk to myself about why are you continuing to invite people to your home or to things that you do?
And you're not getting invitations. I did that. I know that was a hard pill to swallow because I had to ask myself, why is this acceptable?
I was watering dead plants. I kept pouring into these so-called friendships. And yes, I have my fingers up during my quotations. My so-called friends, when I knew that it was no longer worth watering, those friendships, you could pretty much call those roses cactus because I completely stepped away from those situations.
Because it didn't make me feel good. One thing about stepping away from a, not so good situation with your friends or a family member, or the relationship with your girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse, is when you step back and just watch sometimes when you just completely take yourself out of the situation for, a bit, you begin to realize who your friends really are.
Because if you can step back and just not involve yourself in their lives anymore, and don't hear from them, they were not your friend, but if you step back and that person comes to you and ask you questions and want to know where you are, where you been or I've missed you, or can we talk about it? Can we fix the wrong then?
You know, that, that relationship may be a relationship you can salvage because friendship goes both ways. It should be easily reciprocated. If you continue to allow mental and emotional abuse, you're going to have to do a self-check. You're going to have to ask yourself why is this? Okay? Why is this acceptable?
Sit down, have that conversation with yourself. Understand that? Just like any other relationship. If you continue to allow IT... IT will continue. You have the power to stop it. Step away from it. Learn to like yourself, learn to love yourself, learn to appreciate yourself by spending time nurturing YOU.
The more you give yourself the attention you deserve. You begin to see that you have so much more to offer, and you'll also begin to notice those dead plants. The next time you see one and charge it to the game, every person in your past, In your present, and in your future, has a purpose?
Most of those people will show up only to provide an experience or lesson, appreciate the lesson and place them in their designated spaces and keep living!
I... I have a little coin purse for some of my past acquaintances. This is where I keep all my coins and we all know coins have two faces. I'm not mad at not one of them.
They just sit in my coin purse. It's best to have a place for them and know where they are. I am E'Genawa Melissa Creating A Lifestyle, helping you become present and future-driven women.
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